When we take a closer look we begin to see and understand the true consequences of our constant ‘busyness’. Are we genuinely enjoying our lives, doing what we love and being with the people who matter? Or are we rushing from one task to the next, trying to be all things to all people, and not feeling like we have the time or energy to give anything or anyone the attention they deserve?
Most people seem to believe they need to do more, when they just need to do what matters.
Our happiest times are when our lives are simplest, and the pressures of expectation from work and family commitments are at their lowest. That leaves forty years in between—the period when we are considered to be in our mental and physical prime, but during which too many of us settle for being ‘crazy busy’ and just moderately happy.
Don’t dismiss ideas because they seem to simple; that’s exactly why they will work.
I used to think that ‘mindfulness’ was something people used as an excuse to be lazy until I realized that appearing productive—filling every moment of the day with tasks and activities—is not the same as being ‘Presenteeism’ isn’t the same as being present and fully focused.
What can you say no to more often, so that you have more time to say yes to the things that matter?
The truth is that we can’t ever be 100 percent ready. The perfect conditions don’t exist and we can’t control the outcome: we can only control our intentions and our efforts.
“The secret of happiness, you see, is not found in seeking more, but in developing the capacity to enjoy less.” ~Socrates
If you really want to do something, don’t give yourself any alternative. If life depends on it, Plan A has to work. You might need to tweak or pivot, but stay in the game.
The key to making decisions is not to hold on too tightly once they’ve been made.
You can’t be in control of everything, but you can choose what’s important to you.
“Three Rules of Work: out of clutter find simplicity; from discord find harmony; in the middle of difficulty lies opportunity.” ~Albert Einstein
If you want to use your time better—to be more fulfilled, more productive, connected—then you need to work out the value of your time and how you are spending it.
Learning how to schedule your life around the people and things that have true value is one of the most important changes you can make.
Too many meetings are a waste of time. We sit through an hour of people justifying why things haven’t got done, or talking about things that aren’t really relevant to you. We convince ourselves they are an invaluable way for everyone to catch up, and yet we already know most things on the agenda from talking to colleagues across our desks or over a cup of coffee.
How to make a tough call:
What do your instincts tell you?
Are you still motivated?
Are you happy?
Are you moving forward or treading water?
Is your effort getting you anywhere?
Why are you doing it?
Is it useful?
Are you adding value?
Could there be an easier way?
Could you enlist the help of others?
If you weren’t dong this, what would you be doing?
Nothing in life is black and white, completely right or wrong; once you have a plan, don’t hold on to it too tightly.